For years I suffered the same problem, but after doing my due diligence (sucking a lot of cock) I was able to push past the gag reflex.

I still can’t deep-throat every cock — some still trigger my gag reflex — but I can get the majority down my throat. Deep-throating is all about patience and positioning.

Experiment with sucking his cock in a variety of positions and trying different angles of approach. Personally, I find it very difficult to deep-throat a cock when my partner is sitting.

I have my best luck when my partner is standing and I’m squatting. I avoid kneeling if at all possible because your knees can only take so much abuse. I like squatting because I can rest my back against the bed, giving me tons of support.

I also like to deep-throat when my partner is lying down and I’m between his legs or leaning over him. This is a great position to take your time in and really explore your partner’s penis and different ways to stimulate him.

The goal should be giving a great BJ that may or may not include deep-throating. Take the pressure off yourself. When I was finally able to deep-throat successfully, after years of failed attempts, it was one of those things that just happened.

His cock just slipped down my throat, and then went even deeper. It was awesome and unexpected. Focusing too much on one specific move can ruin the experience and hold you back from reaching your full sexual potential.

I also never let a partner hold my head while I’m giving head. I gag a lot more when someone is controlling my head. You can’t force a deep-throat, it just has to happen.

This column doesn’t constitute medical or professional advice. Always consult a qualified health care professional for your medical, psychological, or relationship problems.