My beautiful wife, Judith, and I have been avid swingers for the past 15 years. But it’s taken us a while to feel like we belong. We’ve had something of an inferiority complex, I think.

At first, we weren’t even sure we could hack it in the swinging world. We’d go to Lifestyle “meet and greets” and talk ourselves into feeling confident and self-supportive. We’d strike up conversations with strangers and congratulate ourselves whenever we had a social success.

The first few times we went to events where fucking was actually happening, we played only with each other. It was exciting — even liberating — but it took us some time before we found the courage to play with others.

As a swinging couple, even now we don’t always get a ton of play.... Read More