Even if there’s such a thing as a “conventional” marriage, ours isn’t it.

DeWitt and I were both 18 when we tied the knot, and honestly I thought he’d be better. He’s a nice guy, and I’ve stuck with him, but he’s always known that to try to fill the sexual gap, I take lovers.

More than 20 years in, De — Witt agreed to allow me to bring a man we knew well into our home as, in effect, a second husband. I alternate nights sleeping with them but have sex with both nearly every day. We all get along well, and the arrangement has enabled me to get something like enough sex.

When Bernard had been with us about four years, we planned a two-week winter getaway in sunny San Diego, to escape our daily routines for a while — and even more to escape the... Read More