Stu and I had been friends with Rand and Kathleen for 15 years when they had a blow-up and got a legal separation, and Kathleen moved out of state but kept in touch with me.

Eventually I learned that Rand wasn’t able to get it up and refused to seek treatment, and much as she loved him, she couldn’t continue in a sexless marriage. Since leaving him, she said, she’d bedded several men.

I wasn’t supposed to tell a soul, but Stu and I tell each other everything, and in time I broke down and told him. A couple of weeks later he said he had an idea. What if we were to sit down with Rand and say that while we don’t know what the problem is, we know that often these things are sexual, and we know from experience that there are usually ways to deal with such problems, offering our own case... Read More