When my wife and I were traveling to our first hookup with another couple, we laughed about how we could hear one another’s hearts pounding in our chests. As we drove to the trysting place, an array of emotions — excitement, desire, nervousness — made us feel as though we were karaoke singers about to perform a duet in front of a stadium full of unforgiving music critics.

Sally and I decided to open up our marriage four years ago. Both of us were enthusiastic about the idea. But we — Sally, in particular — weren’t sure about jumping into the deep end of the swinger pool. We weren’t certain we could even handle dog-paddling in the shallow end. We agreed, instead of showing up at so-called lifestyle events or clubs, we would take it slower, looking for one couple in our general... Read More