I’m in a horrifyingly boring relationship with a guy that’s going nowhere. How do I get out of it with the least amount of emotional pain?
— Vivienne S., Olympia, Washington

Great question, Viv, and one I get often. First some basics.

Your relationship is, as you say, “going nowhere.” Where did you expect it to go? Studies show (these studies are out there, I promise, but don’t compel me to cite them; it’s not going to happen) that an overwhelming number of relationships (in the 99.9 percent ballpark) “go nowhere.” What this essentially means is that they all go to the same place. You stay together, eat together, travel together, watch the same stupid shit on TV, maybe have or adopt a kid or two, watch them grow up, and the whole “circle of life”... Read More