I was really surprised recently when I went home with this guy I’ve been dating and found out that he has a drawer full of sex toys.

I’ve never encountered a guy who had stuff like that. Is this normal? — A.H., New Jersey

As a society we’re getting way freakier in the bedroom. Modern television, magazines and movies frequently reference kinky sex or the use of sex toys. In this culture, it’s totally normal for a person to build up a war chest of sexy accessories.

His toy box is a sign that he works hard to please his partner in the bedroom and he’s open about and comfortable with sex. Sounds like you have is a partner who’ll most likely be open to trying new positions or sex games and acting on any of your fantasies.

It’s much easier to have a sexually open partner dial back his freak for your comfort level than it is to convince a prude to up the spice. So all of those sex toys are a good thing!

This column doesn’t constitute medical or professional advice. Always consult a qualified health care professional for medical, psychological, or relationship problems or questions.