I just started dating a great guy, and I’m excited to sleep with him, except for one thing:
He’s six-foot-six and I’m only five-foot-four. It’s always awkward when we hug and kiss, so how can we make the sex work? — A.H., West Virginia
It’s actually going to be more comfortable to have sex with him than hug and kiss. There’s an old maxim, “Everyone is the same height in bed,” and it’s totally true!
That said, there are a few positions that are especially suited to height-disparate couples. My favorite is the man sitting on a couch while the woman rides him. It’s very intimate, gives you lots of face time with your partner and is perfect for smooches. You can also modify this position on a bed with him sitting cross-legged. In that position, I like to ride my partner by supporting myself in a crab/bridge position on my feet and hands, belly toward the sky. It feels amazing! Play around with angles, depth and speed. There are so many variations and delicious sensations for you to discover!
For 69, either lay on top of him or modify the position so you’re both laying on your side and he can curl his back down to reach your pussy.
Because you’re so much smaller than him, try standing missionary with your back against the wall and him supporting your weight. Not everyone can do that, but for those who can, it’s super fun. And for standard missionary and doggie, grab the bottom cushions off the couch. They’re firmer and larger than bedroom pillows and can lift your body into the right position. Think of them as a sex booster seat. Use the kitchen counter for mish and doggie, or raise your bed. There’s no limit to the things you can do.
This column doesn’t constitute medical or professional advice. Always consult a qualified health care professional for your medical, psychological, or relationship problems.