When I married Trevor, a minister, three years ago, I was 22 and pretty inexperienced with sex because I came from a very religious family.

Although I had given a few blowjobs in college, I had “saved myself” for when I got married.

I thought I would have a good life being a minister’s wife. Unfortunately Trevor, while a wonderfully kind and gentle man, is frankly terrible in bed. When we made love it was always in the missionary position, with no oral sex, and the routine was that he came inside me and shortly thereafter fell asleep, leaving me high and dry. I had to wait until I heard him snoring before I could masturbate to climax.

Three months ago I went over to my friend Elaine’s house for coffee. Elaine and Rick are members of our church, and she serves on a couple of... Read More