What’s the best way to respond when someone you’re involved with sexually asks how many people you’ve been with before?

Everyone has a different opinion on whether or not to disclose your “number.” Some say it’s nobody’s business and that you should never tell. Others insist that full disclosure is the only way. I say it depends on who’s asking, why they’re asking, and why it’s important for them to know.

There are three reasons why someone might ask:
1. to find out how risky you are
2. to compare levels of sexual experience
3. to know you more intimately

The fact is, the more sex partners a person has had, the greater their chances of getting a sexually transmitted disease. But your lifetime number does not... Read More