Young, hot, and a hard ass — a dangerous combination. Our company’s youngest architect had a habit of removing his tie and popping open the top few buttons of his shirt during strategy sessions. Next came the sleeves, rolled all the way up his forearm, revealing thick muscle covered with a dusting of honey-blond hair.

And it’s not just Gavin’s appearance that’s distracting, it’s his behavior. His energy and enthusiasm are contagious, but he doesn’t take kindly to team members who don’t contribute. That’s when his eyes grow a little darker, his jaw a little tighter.

I’d never repeated the experience, but I was glad to have it in my repertoire. It came in very handy with new boyfriends when they inevitably and nervously asked me that crucial question:... Read More