I’ve been turned-on by all manner of anal play for quite some time.

However, as a “basic brunette preppy girl” from Connecticut, it was the one thing I could never admit to wanting — or even talk about. Girls like me didn’t do that! And as a TV character once said, “no one marries the ‘up the butt’ girl,” so it really psyched me out. And even when the occasional boyfriend would gently hint at wanting to explore back there, I would blush and demur, sometimes insisting it was gross. Turns out that the ultra-conservative guys I dated were more sexually adventurous than they let on.

During my first year of graduate school in architecture, I spent the spring in Italy — and I came home to discover that not only had my boyfriend cheated on me, but I... Read More