Lately it seems like the only way I can get aroused is by reading dirty stories. Porn, dirty talk, even standard foreplay with my boyfriend won’t do it.

Is there something wrong with me? — J.I., Maine

As you haven’t relied on them in the past, it’s likely that you’re enjoying a phase and are spicing things up in your own way. Sex aids like vibrators, pornography and erotica books are good ways to speed up arousal. You can still get turned on without them, but it’s so much easier with their help that you start thinking you need them. It’s like making a cake from scratch versus making it from a mix. The cake made with the mix is pretty good and satisfies your cravings, but it’ll never be the same as a cake made entirely from scratch. 

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