The thing about being a bouncer is that you have to sit outside while all the customers pass through the doors and into a night of fun.

This is especially true about being a bouncer at a BDSM club. I see the pretties go in. I imagine what happens next and wonder which ones are dommes, which ones are subs. That’s usually easy enough to guess from their attire. But since I check IDs and keep track of the guest list, I’ve always been on the outside of the fun with the kinky guests — until…

Recently, as the club finished emptying at closing time, I felt a hand on my shoulder. I turned to see one of the women I’d pegged immediately as a sub standing next to me. Actually, I’d noticed her over the past few weekends. She stood out from the rest of the crowd to me. There was a yearning... Read More